Yesterday I had a small soap box moment on my facebook page – as you do. It’s not my first and I can tell you now it won’t be my last.
I’m concerned. I’m concerned for my girls, and my teen son … heck I am concerned with the general population.
Unfortunately (or fortunately it can swing either way I find) what comes in my personality package is a KEEN sense of justice, of right and wrong and an absolute abhorrence of judgment and criticism of another person.
So what am I so worked up about ? Lets start with ….
Just last week I saw the media splashed with ridiculous claims that KATE MOSS ….. yes the Kate Moss was ….. get this …. FAT. Um??? What?
I also watched as beautiful strong crossfit athletes at the absolute PEAK of their game were labelled as masculine, ugly, not feminine, needs to stop with the weights (WHAT THE??) and then on the other side of the coin read sexual, graphic comments on the instagram feed aimed at these same women. All kinds of messed up and wrong.
Back track a few weeks and a friend of mine has had strangers tell her TO HER FACE how fat she was. She’s pretty use to the side glances and mutterings from people. But this was a whole new level.
I’ve heard the stories from my jogging girlfriends of the abuse they hear from passing cars – abuse about their size.
See my point? what hope do our amazing, wonderful children have of growing up with a strong sense of self love, appreciation for who they are and LOVE for their body. People who love their bodies take care of themselves, they nurture, feed and nourish – because they KNOW their self worth is not tied up in another persons opinion.
THAT is what I want for my kids.
Then I started thinking not just about the media and it’s role but the self put downs I hear EVERY day from various women in my life. Not as bad as the abusive commentators you think? think again.
Every negative comment is heard, not only by yourself (and then you actually start to believe it) but by the most important people in your world. Your kids.
We can’t control the media, but we can control what our kids hear from our own mouths.
We can also really focus of loving who we ARE. This is not measure of fitness/ strength/size/height or weight but an appreciation for our own smart, kind, creative, intelligent, hopeful, funny and so many other traits that makes you, well YOU!
Self love is the best gift you can give yourself, and your children.
Lisa (from my soapbox)